The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom is a self-help book by best-selling author Don Miguel Ruiz with Janet Mills. The book proposes a code of conduct based on the ancient wisdom of Toltec, which advocates the freedom of self-limiting beliefs that can cause suffering and limitations in a person`s life. Thank you for your thoughts, Coleen. I think your decision not to get caught up in right-wing arguments is wise. If we are all artists, if we are artists through the interpretations of the world we create, then the judgments of law/false simply do not apply to our art. A painting of a tree is not the same as a tree, but we would not describe such an interpretive painting as „false“ or „lie“. The same goes for our artistic interpretations of life. Each of us creates a story that is true to us, and I think it is good to respect each other`s stories. Don`t expect to be always able to be flawless with your word. Don`t expect you to never do it again. Keep doing your best and keep trying, regardless of what`s going on. It`s not all about you. What someone does or says is not because of you.
This is the other person, because all men live in their own minds. What others say and do is because of the agreements they have – it`s because of their programming. And if you take it personally, you agree that it is true to immortalize these toxic arrangements in your own mind. We have the power to break them, to do more self-love, to make more agreements with ourselves instead of being afraid, but often we don`t. The book then describes 4 powerful key chords that will help them regain your power and transform your life. The third agreement describes the question of whether assumptions are made as to how it leads to suffering and why individuals should not participate in doing so. If you assume what others think, it can create stress and interpersonal conflict, because the person thinks that his hypothesis is a representation of the truth.  Ruiz believes that one solution to overcome the adoption act is to ask questions and ensure that communication between those involved is clear.  Individuals can avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama by not taking any assumptions.  I think I`ll have it now. Miguel writes about right and wrong, truth and lies – but it is only his opinions – that should not be taken literally because my feelings tell me otherwise. Thank you for sharing your point of view, Coleen.
I always recommend all books written by members of the Ruiz family. Miguel Ruiz`s latest book (The Toltec Art of Life and Death) is a little different. He continues to teach some of the same lessons presented in his previous books, but in the context of a somewhat fictionalized report on his experience, when he was about to die after his heart attack. He looks back at events as he grew up, which gives more insight into his thinking. I`m also looking forward to Miguel Ruiz Jr`s next book, The Mastery of Self: A Toltec Guide to Personal Freedom. Cccc`s comment seems to come from a person who is a bit un obstructed. Being really friendly and generous doesn`t mean letting selfish people walk around. When that happens, you probably won`t be as „enlightened“ as you think you are yourself. Going after what you want in life is not selfish and it doesn`t need to hurt others. Cccc`s point of view, honestly, is very co-dependent. You have the choice to believe or not to believe what others are telling you; to believe or not to believe what you`re saying to yourself.